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Quarter-Life Crisis Signs and the Difference Between Setbacks and Settling
Quarter-Life Crisis Signs and the Difference Between Setbacks and Settling
You glare at your cat as you get ready for work and say, “Gosh, I wish I had your life.”
“Am I ever going to feel like myself again?” is something you ask. Every day.
An upbeat song comes on and you still start crying. By yourself, or around friends. Or in the middle of a coffee shop as strangers hastily usher their children away.
You found this book because you Googled “Quarter-Life Crisis.”
Visualizing yourself 15 years from now doing your boss’s job makes you throw up a little in your mouth.
You’re having arguments with your mom again about cleaning your bathroom and being home at a reasonable hour.
Your monthly routine of expenses being greater than your income is dawning on you as a serious problem.
You’re having arguments with your newly cemented spouse and/or roommate that sound awfully like the arguments your parents used to have, which you swore you’d never have, yet are having.
You’ve moved six times in the last four years.
B. You’ve had six jobs in the last four years.
C. You’ve had six boyfriends in the last four years.
D. You’ve had six girlfriends in the last four years.
E. You’ve had no boyfriends or girlfriends in the last six years and you’re scared your boyfriending or girlfriending is broken.
You’d pay top dollar for a moment of clarity.
Your temporary job at the coffee shop has lasted three and a half years.
You find yourself repelled and compelled by your faith at the same time. You ask God for help one day and then you’re yelling at Him the next. Your faith is a roller coaster and you’re pretty sure your seat belt is about to come undone.
You see so clearly the two roads in front of you: a life of comfort and a life of risk. And you’re not sure you have the right car or directions to go down either one.
You surf the internet so much at work every day that you literally hit a point where you don’t know what else to search for.
You laughed and cried when you first read “21 Secrets for Your 20s” on AllGroanUp.com.
Making a budget is completely debilitating. Even thinking about doing your taxes. Debilitating. Buying groceries. Debilitating. Doing dishes. Cooking dinner. Looking for a job. Calling your mom back. Calling your best friend back. Picking up the phone at all. DEBILITATING. So you watch four seasons in a row of ___________, while social-media-stalking exes and enemies.
The phrase you dread hearing the most at work is, “Congratulations, you’re getting a promotion.”
Every time you’re a bridesmaid or groomsman, a piece of you dies inside.
You dream about going back and slapping your Smug-College-Self who was so sure he had all the answers.
You seek out a mentor for answers one week and you avoid them like the 8th grader with bad BO the next.
You have no idea where to go for answers. Yet …
You’re 99 percent sure a road trip would fix everything.
Too many twentysomethings are miserable because we’ve confused setbacks for settling. That just because we moved back in with our parents or took that job answering phones, we’re failures.
Sure, maybe for the moment we’ve joined forces with a not-so-braggable life. Maybe we’re not going to be a feature article in our alumni magazine anytime soon. But we’re not settling. We’re visiting.
This is a season, a stage, the perfect place in time for us to prepare to take the next step needed.
You can settle in for a season without settling. You settle when you completely give up, when you let your dreams be suffocated by your current reality. Visiting is simply a pit stop, and even though it might feel like the bottom of a pit, don’t let it stop you.
练习题
Which scenario best illustrates the author's idea that a quarter-life crisis can involve longing for a different life?
According to the passage, which workplace reaction most clearly signals career misalignment during a quarter-life crisis?
What distinction does the author make between “settling” and “visiting”?
Which examples from the passage are signs of a quarter-life crisis? Select all that apply.
Which statements accurately reflect the author’s view of setbacks and settling? Select all that apply.
True or false: In the passage, asking “Am I ever going to feel like myself again?” every day is presented as a sign of feeling disconnected from oneself.
True or false: The passage suggests that frequent moves, frequent jobs, or frequent relationship changes can point to instability during a quarter-life crisis.
True or false: The author says that being repelled and compelled by faith at the same time means a person has no real quarter-life crisis.
The passage says that making a budget, doing taxes, buying groceries, doing dishes, and even picking up the phone can feel ___.
According to the author, “You can settle in for a season without ___.”
In 1–3 sentences, explain why a temporary job at a coffee shop lasting three and a half years might be a quarter-life crisis sign but not necessarily “settling.”
In 1–3 sentences, describe how the passage connects the desire for clarity, not knowing where to seek answers, and escape fantasies.
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